: December 19, 2018 Posted by: Maureen Comments: 0

By Maureen Santini © Copyright. All Rights Reserved.

This is Chapter 4 in Write Your Life Story for Posterity. You’ve just finished writing about your third decade of life. You are well on your way. Let’s keep going.

If you’re new to this website, here’s why you should strongly consider writing your life story for posterity.

Your fourth decade spans ages 30 through 39. If you were born in 1960, for instance, your fourth decade began in 1990. Begin writing at your 30th birthday.

Your Life So Far

Set the stage by summarizing your situation as you entered your thirties. For instance, “I was still searching for my life’s partner and my work path.” Or, “I married and had children young and was feeling restless.” Or, “I was on a high-powered career path with no time for distractions.” Or, “I was happier than ever.” Evaluate your situation the best you can.

Take a deeper dive into the highs and lows. Highlight positive and challenging situations that involved you, your life, your work, your family, relationships, and friends. Mention events in your city, state, nation, or world that had a major influence on your life. Create a full portrait of your life at the time.

Brainpower, holidays, job satisfaction, friendships, and happiness all allegedly improve in your thirties. In fact, one study found people don’t feel truly happy until the age of thirty, due to a combination of living in the moment and worrying less. Around 70 percent of those surveyed hit their happiness peak then, compared with 6 percent in college years and 16 percent in childhood.

Basic Information

As always, it’s important to capture basic factual information in such categories as:


List the places you lived in your thirties including street addresses, town, state, country, and type of residence. Identify the people you were living with, if any, and your relationship to them.


List the places you worked or volunteered in your thirties. Name the companies or organizations, add the addresses, job titles and duties, and anything else relevant about these jobs. Even if you didn’t work for a wage, describe how you spent the majority of time.


Identify the main people in your life during your thirties including family members, friends, spouses, and significant others. Explain how these relationships evolved from the beginning of the decade to the end.

Describe your courtship, wedding, and your experience of married life if you married in your thirties.  If you married in your twenties or earlier, explain how married life was evolving. If you became a parent, address the challenges and rewards of child-raising and, if relevant, your experience of parenting and the ways it affected your life.

Skills, Hobbies, Interests

Aside from work, detail activities that occupied the majority of your time, such as reading, sports, cooking, politics, movies, crafts, religion, traveling, and education. Assess how your interests and obligations evolved throughout the decade.

Health and Welfare

Characterize physical, mental and emotional challenges you and those close to you faced. State the status of your overall health and the health of your inner circle.

Looking back, describe your frame of mind toward the ambitions or dreams you had when younger. Mention whether you were satisfied with your life at the end of your thirties or seeking a different path.


Enumerate the expectations you had for your life and family and whether they materialized or changed during the decade. Express your expectations for the future.


These topics are intended as a general guide. Capture the essence of your life and lifestyle during these years by adding information about any topic, person or event that was central to your life.

Well done! Next up: your fifth decade.

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Note: This post has been updated from the original.